In the end
these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you let go?” Gautama Buddha
The last line of this beautiful quote “How deeply did you let go” is really sitting with me this week. As I continue to write my book about my journey through grief, I realise there are many layers of healing that take place over our life time. How quickly I move through these healings will depend on how deeply I let go.
Healing can be deceiving. Many times I have told myself or have heard from others, “Oh I let go of that many years ago” or “That doesn’t bother me anymore” only to have it triggered again by a innocent comment or a reminder of the past.
We convince ourselves we have moved on from our wounds and pain and yet, we cannot hide from our truth. It may face us in a sickness, our anger, or unhappiness in our relationships. Often we blame these circumstances for our discontentment, when it can be because we are still holding on.
Letting go always begins with stillness. If I continue to face a hurt from the past, I need time to understand why. I allow the silence to help connect me to my feelings. When I feel where my pain is, I let go through allowing forgiveness in, either to myself or to those who have hurt me.
Each layer from our past is here to teach us to grow and understand ourselves and our journey.
In choosing to let go deeply, we will find more space within to expand our view on everything in life.