Tag: Positive thoughts
Acceptance
“I follow four dictates: face it, accept it, deal with it, then let it go.” ~Sheng Yen
I try to follow the dictates above as I find this process helps me work through the many challenges in my life. The one I struggle with the most is “Acceptance.”
When I cannot accept myself or the problem that is challenging me, then the next steps of dealing with it and letting it go can not happen.
Accepting and not interfering with the natural essence of nature, you will find it heals itself. It’s the same with us. When we allow ourself to be, to accept this moment or challenge no matter how hard it seems, we can begin to heal.
We all seem to be happy to identify our thoughts and what the problem is, but rarely do we want to identify or accept what the event reveals about us. Whenever I was confronted with a challenge in my life, I began to notice that feelings of frustration and anger came to the surface and I wanted to give up immediately.
These are the feelings that we need to face and acknowledge in ourselves because these are what are limiting us from moving forward and discovering our true potential.
When I started to see a pattern, I began to question why I wanted to give up when I felt challenged. I realised it was fear. Fear of being vulnerable and exposed and fear of not being good enough. It takes time to understand ourselves and sometimes we need guidance from others too, so be patient.
Once I accepted this and started to work at changing the limiting beliefs I had about myself, I was able to move forward and change.
Resisting the pain and not facing who we are in the pain, only prolongs our healing.
Become aware of the feelings that surface when life challenges you, because when you identify these patterns and face them, you can begin to practice letting them go.
We all have parts of ourself that we don’t like or don’t want to see and yet, facing those parts of self through meditation, counselling and stillness, you will begin to understand how to work with them rather than against them.
“The greatest challenge in your life is discovering who you are, the second greatest is accepting what you find.” – author unknown
Take Responsibility
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” – Jim Rohn
When life presents us with challenging situations or when we are confronted with personal fears, we have two choices; To resign to this part of ourselves and face we will always be this way, saying “What can I do?” “That’s just the way I am” …or take responsibility for them, by stepping into our fears and changing our life.
Charles Givens reminds us that, “You have to let go of your past in order to effectively design your future.” In other words to let go of who you think you are, and take action, instead of wishing things were different.
Instead of asking “what do I want from life?,” a more powerful question is, “what does life want from me?” – Eckhart Tolle
Whenever an answer, a solution, or a creative idea is needed, stop thinking for a moment by focusing attention on your inner energy field. … When you resume thinking, it will be fresh and creative. When we allow negative thoughts in and continually feed them, we cannot focus on how to change our situation.
Firstly, be honest with yourself “What part of you is fearful and why do you find it so hard to accept?”. When we acknowledge and accept this truth, we can start to recognise the conditioned pattern of our thoughts that bring our fear’s to the surface. You need to be able to watch yourself in these fearful situations and see how you can act differently.
Becoming conscious of this fear will begin to change the course you have created in life and as you step into the fear and realise it wasn’t as big or as scary as you first thought, you will be able to address other parts of your life too.
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Wake up and be conscious of your fearful thoughts. “Are they real?” “Are they preventing your growth?” if so, why are you holding onto to them? Challenge yourself to feel uncomfortable in fearful situations and work through changing your thoughts. If we do what we have always done, we will always have the same results.
We all have the “Ability” to “Respond” differently in all situations. Each day is a new beginning.
“Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally”. – Eckhart Tolle
LIVING IN THIS MOMENT 