“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” Rumi
When is a good time to begin the long journey of inner healing? The answer to this question is often “never.” When I first started my journey and faced my grief, I didn’t know if I could, I didn’t know if I was strong enough or if I was ready. I just knew that I didn’t want to be trapped in a place of pain for the rest of my life.
People say to me “Oh I will, when I have more confidence” or “Next year I will have more time” or “I am trying, it’s just so difficult.” All of us have felt this way at different stages of our life, because it can be extremely challenging to face our pain.
Kahlil Gibran says “Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling, with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain.”
This quote is one of my favourites. It holds immense truth and wisdom. It was not until I began the journey and started to heal the wounds of my grief and my past, that I could see all that I was, beyond my pain.
Strategies that helped me:
Desire/Need: You must want change and the desire to create a different life for yourself.
Action: To take the necessary steps towards change, always begins with an action. Seek mentors that can help create a plan, and show you how you can implement this into your daily life.
Commitment: This is an extremely important factor. Without commitment we cannot move forward and see the results from our hard work.
Patience: There are no quick fixes in life. Healing takes time. It requires nurturing, self-love and compassion for ourselves. It means letting go and walking lightly on this earth, embracing the unknown and our ever-changing path.
When we realise how precious each and every moment is, that is when we answer, “I am ready.”