“This being human is a guest house. Every morning is a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all. Treat each guest honorably. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” Rumi
I love this quote from Rumi. Each time a visitor arrives, I discover another layer of myself. They have all come to heal me.
When I was grieving I wasn’t sure who would arrive at my door. Sometimes it was anger, or fear. Some days it was sickness. Sometimes I didn’t answer the door at all. The more I ignored them, the more they kept coming around.
Over time, I became more inclined to peak out and see who was there. Each time a new guest arrived, I became better at inviting them in. I realised that when I invited them in and sat with these feelings, I began to accept them. Some left quickly, some stayed for a while.
One day I became aware that the heavy guests were not coming so often. I began to notice a shift. I noticed there were new guests arriving. Some days it was peace, some days it was happiness. Sometimes it was awareness and joy.
When doubt comes in, I ask myself these questions.
Why are you closing the door to this feeling?
What would happen if you invited it in?
Can you sit with these feelings for a while to see what they have to say?
I am better at opening the door now. Some guests still make me feel uncomfortable, but they too have been sent as a guide and a teacher.
Embrace everyone at the door. They are here to remind us; who we are and who we can become.