“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” Mary Oliver
A young man about to finish his law degree, had been asking his father for a car as a graduation present for many months. When graduation day came, the young man’s father called him into the study. The father handed him a wrapped gift and congratulated his son.
Looking disappointed, the son opened the gift to find a lovely, leather-bound journal with the young mans name embossed on the cover. The son angrily raised his voice, threw down the journal and stormed out.
Many years past and the young man did not see his Father. He became successful and wealthy like his father, with a beautiful home and family. He came to realize that his father was aging and it was now time to put the past behind him.
Just as he decided this, he received a call from a family member telling him that his father had passed away and that he needed to return home to take care of the estate.
As the son regretfully returned home, he began searching through his father’s important papers and saw the still new journal, just as he had left it.
He opened it and as he flipped through the pages, a car key dropped from the back of the journal.
A dealer tag was attached to the key that read, “Paid in full.” His Father also wrote. “Wherever this car takes you, write about it and remember it forever, Love Dad.”
Without a doubt, life doesn’t always meet our expectations or unfold the way we planned it. However, when this happens in my own life, I know I have two ways of dealing with it.
1. Resisting and fighting against what is, and what I wanted.
2. Accepting this moment and trusting that my life is unfolding exactly as it should. From here, I stay in that place long enough to learn what it wants to teach me. Long enough to find the gift.. and from this place, I realize, I have what I need.