When I acknowledge I need support, I learn to walk again – Karen Lang
In a few months I will begin teaching a monthly Workshop for grieving parents. It takes courage to step out and seek support, and I remember early in my grief how vulnerable and exposed I felt, not knowing how to deal with my emotions.
Often it feels easier to ignore our feelings and tell people, “I’m good” or “I am coping” or “I am working on it.” These attitudes keep our energy blocked and we can miss receiving the gift of guidance and nurturing.
Letting go and admitting I needed help after our son died, I found a beautiful mentor who guided me through the terrain of grief and taught me how to heal within.
We may not find the right teacher or mentor the first time, but I really believe when we are open to learn, these teachers and mentors will be there, to guide us, help us heal and see a deeper understanding and perspective in life.
30 thoughts on “Acknowledging our needs”
Agreed. I’m a big fan of admitting our needs, honesty and vulnerability. And it’s still hard to ask for help. 🙂
It is, and I’m not sure why we fight it, because we receive so much when we let go. Thanks Brad!
I wish i had met someone as amazing as you when I lost my brother. i read my diaries and now realise back then I should have got some extra support outside the family unit. Even though my family is large and loving i think it helps to talk to someone else. You will help so many Karen of that I have no doubt. xxx
I think it helps too Kath. It’s good to gain a different perspective and to talk to someone who is not affected by your loved ones death. Your strength and love for life has grown from a difficult tragedy and you are very special. 💚
Love the quote Karen. It sums up your post beautifully. The world we live in is certainly not conducive to vulnerability. But I suppose that’s why there is so much continued pain.
Thankyou Don. You are so right, there is so much pain in the world, but I am also grateful for the teachers out there, who open our minds and hearts to see more clearly. 🙏🏻
Yes, special people, Karen, like you.
Wising you the best with your class! I am also teaching this week on self-care, so I am going to use your quote for the class. As we both know, this is the first step in the process, acknowledging we need help. That was a struggle for me in the beginning as I also found people did not want to hear any more from me than I am fine. However, as you state, it takes time to find the right mentor. We owe that to ourselves. Thank you for sharing. Sending you much love.
Thankyou so much. You are so right, it can be difficult to move pass the onlookers through grief who fear pain and sadness and find mentors or teachers who will go with you through the difficult layers. It took me awhile to find my mentor, but I was ready when I met her, to face my grief and that made all the difference in my healing. I too wish you many blessings in your workshops. The wounded healers make the best teachers!! Much love 💚
Thank you, what a sweet note!
That is wonderful about your class! Many people will find their perfect mentor the day they start that class. I hope you will have plenty of your books available. 🙂 That book is a mentor in itself. But of course, not as good as having you in person. 🙂
Thankyou Mary. I see the workshops as paying it forward. My mentor guided me through the journey of grief and now I feel it’s time to give back. Our WordPress community also contributes this way. Namaste! 🙏🏻💚
Very helpful and encouraging post, Karen. The picture you posted reminds me of the rehabilitation struggles after contracting polio at age four.
The first step is the most difficult.
The first step is Alan and begins our journey of thousand healings!! You are a shining example of that and make a big difference in this world. Thankyou for your support here. 🙏🏻
It is my honor, Karen.
Glad you will be doing a workshop. I only hope many take advantage of it.
Thankyou Emilie. I look forward to being apart of this journey with these parents. 💚
Are you been doing that the whole time for us? Thanks for all the healing, Karen.
Thankyou for being here Rommel 🙏🏻
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This has been my weakness, I am always happy to help, but asking help has been difficult. Getting a little better with age 🙂
It is hard for everyone Helen. Receiving is a gift for us all 🙏🏻
Knowing when to ask for support opens a whole new way of letting go and living life. At least, it did for me! I agree Karen – When we are open the right people show up to show us the way.
Thank you for sharing all that you do and paying it forward. 💕
The right people definitely show up when we are open Val. I am learning to trust this. Thankyou for your support!