‘True balance in the body is linked to listening, but also metaphorically, true balance is linked to an attentiveness that allows you to engage fully in this moment.’
John O’Donohue “Walking on the Pastures of Wonder.”
‘A man went to see a Guru as he was finding it difficult to be still and meditate. The guru told him to go home and not to think about monkeys.
Surprised at the advice, the man nevertheless returned home to carry out the guru’s strategy. Once at home he started not to think about monkeys. First there was one monkey, then there were two monkeys and then there were ten monkeys! Within a few days, there were hundreds of them and so he went back to the guru to tell him about the monkey jungle he had in his mind.’
Our minds are programmed with a set of beliefs and thoughts, long before we become aware of it.
For example; We may believe it is weak and vulnerable to allow our emotions to be felt and seen by others, and no matter how hard we try to change it, we can’t seem to open up and allow our feelings to be seen, and this is simply because it has been programmed into us since we were children.
If we are trying to change something in our life without success, it’s usually because we are not addressing deep beliefs and feelings that we are holding beneath this.
When we take the time to listen deeply to our beliefs, thoughts, feelings and needs, no matter what they are; we will find what is blocking our progress forward.
If your are angry then let yourself feel angry! If your are tired and vulnerable then feel that too!
When we practice deep listening and allowing, we open up an authentic space within us.
There are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ feelings. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to feel.
If it arises in us, then it needs to be honored and acknowledged.
Learning to respect our feelings is the pathway towards growth and deep changes.
Pushing it down increases it’s presence in our mind and in our life.
Pushing it away, just creates more monkey’s in our mind!