“I meet myself in stillness and we breathe.” S W Berry
How much ‘being’ did you do today?
Not doing…Not over-controlling…..Being.
Tara Brach has an amazing way of revealing the illusions I tell myself and how I trick myself into believing I am present to what is.
She asks, “How often do we prepare for the events in our life?” “How much time do we give getting ready for others and our jobs, rather than finding space to allow and be?”
Over-controlling, cuts us off from ‘what is’ by believing, “This shouldn’t be happening” or “This isn’t right” and from this space I try to prevent or fix what I believe shouldn’t be happening or isn’t right? Crazy right?
If it’s here, then we need to feel it. If it’s here, then we need to understand it. Not fix it or change it.
That means we need to allow space for it, allow time for it to be seen and felt.
In being, there is no judgement, no expectation, there is no problem. We are only the witness to what is.
Being gives us far more chance of changing our situation than controlling does.
you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
To hold it against your bones
knowing your life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.
“In Blackwater Woods” by Mary Oliver, from American Primitive. © Back Bay Books, 1983.