In these matters, the only certainty is that nothing is certain. – Elder
“Master” a disciple asked Chuang Tzu one day, “Where did the universe come from? Is there a God? What is the purpose of life? Why is there pain, injustice and suffering? Where do we go after we die?”
Chuang Tzu responded:
“The true master of life does not labor over life. The true master of fate does not question fate. Use understanding to understand what can be understood, and then stop.”
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In uncertain times, we search for control and a need to know the answers. It is only fear that drives us in that direction.
Uncertainty does not create stress. It is our need to know that creates a busy mind and keeps us avoiding the present. Living in the unknown can be an opportunity for growth, change, and an easier path in life.
When we master the art of stillness and acceptance in uncertainty, we let go of our fears and this opens our mind, our perspective, and brings peace to our situation.
“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order, than the one we have in mind.” David Allen
Truly beautiful. Thank you for this Karen.
Thankyou Nico. 🙏🏻
Just what I needed to hear! Thanks for posting!
So glad it helped! Thankyou 🙏🏻
This is so true, Karen. I have worked on organizational change a lot in my life and seen so much stress and anxiety when people do not know exactly what will happen and want answers that have not yet emerged. Quiet acceptance can be difficult. Great post!
So true Helen. We seem to learn the hard way! I’m realising how much easier it is doing the opposite 💜
Never really thought of it that way Karen, but it certainly rings true! ❤
Diana xo
Believe me I’ve been an expert trying to control everything over the years ha! It’s easier now 🙏🏻❤️
I like this post very much, Karen. I especially appreciate the observation that it’s not uncertainty that produces stress, but my own response.
It can take time for us to realize we are creating this response MK. Life is one big lesson!! Thankyou 🙏🏻
Awareness of our controlling nature and acceptance of the underlying fear brings real freedom 💛
I love this story and your perspective Karen 💕
It is real freedom Val! That’s exactly how I feel when I let go. Thankyou for your wisdom. ❤️
Accepting that we can’t control everything is common sense that takes a long time for most of us to learn.
It is, and I see this everyday with my clients too. It is a long lesson to learn. Thankyou Jennifer. 💚
We have to learn to trust that all is as it should be. 🙂
Yes that’s right Eliza. Trusting in the difficult times is the challenge. 🙏🏻💚
Reminds me of how in my darkest times, I kept asking, “Why is this happening to me?” But that thought added stress. I just had to keep putting one foot in front of the other and focusing on the things that gave me peace and joy. The answer does not always come, but things often become clear in time.
A wonderful example Joanna of how we can move through our challenges and pain. It is always possible. Thankyou 💜
Great offering. “Use understanding to understand what can be understood, and then stop.” Railing against the machine is not going to change it, at least for me. Bringing what I can to bear where it is accepted is the best I can do. That, and finding peace in my heart every moment I am able. In my world, it’s all perfect. Or none of it is. I choose the first interpretation, thus relax in the knowledge that it’s all playing out as it must, or so I presume. Aloha.
I agree Bela. The choice is ours each day. The gift is letting go. Aloha and blessings.
So true, Karen. “For one who has faith no explanation is necessary. For one without faith no explanation is sufficient.” – St. Thomas Aquinas
-Alan
Perfect quote Alan. Very true. Thankyou 💜
You are so right, Karen. And sometimes, I hate that. 😀 This is a tough one for me to take. As much of a happy go lucky I am, I am actually an anxious driven guy.
I think we all have times where we are like that Rommel. Being aware of those thoughts is the first step towards change. 🙏🏻
Ah, just the reminder I needed this morning. Thank you Karen.
So good to hear! Trust you are exactly where you should be. 🙏🏻❤️ Thankyou.
Searching for control (after an unexpected traumatic event) is the worst part of the after effects … and yet recognising that need (and letting go of it) can be enlightening.
It is exactly how we feel Elizabeth. When our life is out of our control, we desperately want to feel safe and connected again. Understanding control is an illusion based on fear, we can learn to step into the unknown and begin to heal. 💚🙏🏻
i’m feeling better
not understanding
myself, Karen 🙂
It is the only place to be David! 🙏🏻
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Karen letting go and trusting in the path set out in its natural order is hard to do, but Im learning slowly to Breathe and your book turned on a few lights in my soul too. You have a beautiful writing gift my friend and when I finish your book I hope I get the chance to read your next one.
Thankyou Kath. I really appreciate your time and for reading my story. I am very grateful for your thoughts and so happy it touched your soul in some way. Trusting and letting go no matter what we are doing, has always been how I have moved forward. I’m glad we can connect. Have a wonderful day. 💚💚