“I wandered lonely as a cloud that floats on high o’er vales and hills. When all at once I saw a crowd, a host of golden daffodils”
I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud, William Wordsworth
Whenever I have felt alone, it is because I have lost my connection to the energy of love within me and around me. It’s normal to feel lonely at times, but for others, Christmas holidays can emphasize their isolation and disconnection.
Loneliness is a big problem in society no matter where we live in the world – Earlier this year, research by Professor John Cacioppo at the University of Chicago found loneliness to be twice as bad for people’s health as obesity and almost as great a cause of death as poverty.
In an era of instant communication via social media and phone, some would argue that it doesn’t make sense that people are lonely. Nevertheless, sharing — the antidote to loneliness — is not the same thing as talking about ourselves and our feelings to one another. Often people mask their loneliness by appearing happy and busy on Facebook or creating the illusion that they have it all, when deep down they feel isolated and misunderstood.
Loneliness is a feeling of separation, so how can we feel connected again?
Making an effort to step out of our comfort zone or where we normally feel safe, can help shift our mood. Taking a break from social media, can also help us re-connect to our feelings and listen to our needs. Sometimes all it takes is a walk in nature, where we may find a crowd of daffodils, or a beautiful tree to sit under where the birds may sing to us and remind us we are not alone.
Other times it may be talking to a friend about our feelings. But most importantly, if we do feel isolated, to reach out to those who will listen and support us. Sometimes we have to do the thing we think, we cannot do.