“Accept yourself as you are. Otherwise you will never see opportunity. You will not feel free to move toward it; you will feel you are not deserving” – Maxwell Maltz
What do we believe we deserve in life? This question calls upon our sense of value and what belief system we have adopted throughout our life, regarding our worth.
Understanding what we believe we deserve, not because of what we have done but because our true-self naturally deserves, is the beginning of how we will know if we are limiting our potential.
Unconscious judgements were created in our childhood about how we receive and what we deserve and that is now reflected in our work, social-life and relationships
We control what comes in and what goes out, according to what we believe, and when we allow judgemental thoughts to be released, we can start to see our true-self emerge and we begin to receive abundantly.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
Most of us still carry the childhood belief and justify that when we are good and work hard, we deserve to be rewarded. “I did a big workout at the gym, so I deserve a wine or chocolate,” “I worked hard all week, so I deserve to buy myself something new.”
As children, we learnt to equate the deserving reward with a sense of self-worth, so when a reward does not appear for us, we feel we are not worthy and continue to repeat the pattern.
This pattern of childhood conditioning continues to block the flow of abundance until we break free from this unconscious thought process.
We need to question ourselves each day on our motives. What do we believe that we need to do or say that comes with deserving in life? Becoming conscious of our thoughts we can see where we feel we need to be perfect in a situation to be rewarded.
“He looked both proud and guilty of something. As if happiness was a reward and he wasn’t sure he’d done enough to deserve it.” – Rupert Thomson
Don’t allow thoughts like “I don’t deserve, or I am not worthy” to enter your mind. Practice affirmations of love and acceptance for yourself each day,…. “I love myself and allow myself to receive” and visualise yourself giving freely to others and see yourself receiving freely from others.
Overtime we can begin to breakdown these judgements we have placed on ourselves, and we can begin to open up and receive what we need. We can start to truly believe that we are worthy of all our dreams.
12 thoughts on “I Deserve….”
Lovely post and yes we all deserve a dose of happiness and peace. Im off to enjoy a few days away with my family I know I deserve it and look forward to creating happy memories.
Yes you do deserve! Have a wonderful break with your family and Thankyou for your comments, I appreciate them Kath.
Hearing you clearly here, Karen. One of my regular affirmations begins with “I am worthy of….” Good reminder this post!
Thankyou Eric, I think we all need to be reminded of this in life. It is a gift when we truly believe this as our truth.
Absolutely beautiful Karen, thank you for sharing your wisdom. I feel truly blessed to have read it and much more peaceful.x
Thankyou Leesa, I appreciate you reading my post and commenting. I am so glad you are feeling more peaceful.
It’s amazing what we believe from our childhoods Karen, and even when we become aware of these things, it can be difficult to adjust our thinking.
Thanks Diana, it does take a long time to adjust our thinking, its been wired that way for awhile and yet, with practice, anything is possible!
I like your ideas here Karen. Maxwell Maltz is not unfamiliar to me; “Psycho-Cybernetics.”
His promotion that we humans are goal seeking creatures is correct. He further says, all we need do is to set our sight on that goal and our natural goal seeking mechanism will continue that pursuit until it is achieved. We will find access to the knowlege and individuals that will aid in that success.
There is an innate purpose in all of us. We need but recognize it and affirm its goodness. The rest is patient persistant pursuit.
I like your comment Alan thankyou! “PPP” Patient Persistant Pursuit is exactly what we need to do, I wish I was good at that part.
This is a great message and one that is difficult to get right sometimes; that we actually deserve happiness, peace and comfort; and must learn to give it to ourselves.
We do deserve all the above Elizabeth. So many of us don’t believe it and so we all need to encourage each other to remember we do!