“Accept yourself as you are. Otherwise you will never see opportunity. You will not feel free to move toward it; you will feel you are not deserving” – Maxwell Maltz
What do we believe we deserve in life? This question calls upon our sense of value and what belief system we have adopted throughout our life, regarding our worth.
Understanding what we believe we deserve, not because of what we have done but because our true-self naturally deserves, is the beginning of how we will know if we are limiting our potential.
Unconscious judgements were created in our childhood about how we receive and what we deserve and that is now reflected in our work, social-life and relationships
We control what comes in and what goes out, according to what we believe, and when we allow judgemental thoughts to be released, we can start to see our true-self emerge and we begin to receive abundantly.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
Most of us still carry the childhood belief and justify that when we are good and work hard, we deserve to be rewarded. “I did a big workout at the gym, so I deserve a wine or chocolate,” “I worked hard all week, so I deserve to buy myself something new.”
As children, we learnt to equate the deserving reward with a sense of self-worth, so when a reward does not appear for us, we feel we are not worthy and continue to repeat the pattern.
This pattern of childhood conditioning continues to block the flow of abundance until we break free from this unconscious thought process.
We need to question ourselves each day on our motives. What do we believe that we need to do or say that comes with deserving in life? Becoming conscious of our thoughts we can see where we feel we need to be perfect in a situation to be rewarded.
“He looked both proud and guilty of something. As if happiness was a reward and he wasn’t sure he’d done enough to deserve it.” – Rupert Thomson
Don’t allow thoughts like “I don’t deserve, or I am not worthy” to enter your mind. Practice affirmations of love and acceptance for yourself each day,…. “I love myself and allow myself to receive” and visualise yourself giving freely to others and see yourself receiving freely from others.
Overtime we can begin to breakdown these judgements we have placed on ourselves, and we can begin to open up and receive what we need. We can start to truly believe that we are worthy of all our dreams.