Being You


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‘Sometimes one feels freer speaking to a stranger than to people one knows. Why is that?”
“Probably because a stranger sees us the way we are, not as he wishes to think we are.’


― Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Shadow of the Wind

In my second book, which is definitely coming out this year! I share about the many times I felt pressured to meet the expectations of others, instead of living in my truth. It was only when I faced my fears and questioned the beliefs I had about myself, that I allowed my authenticity to emerge.

When we feel comfortable living in our authentic truth, we stop being the person that everyone else wants us to be. However, this is a choice. And often it’s not until we are exhausted or overwhelmed from living out this story, that we decide it is time to be free.

One of the ways that helped me awaken my truth, was to question my intentions and actions in life.

  1. Why are you doing this?
  2. Are you doing this because it feels right or because you think you have to?
  3. What motivates you to act in this way?
  4. Are you rewarded or acknowledged for this behavior?
  5. Where do you feel most comfortable being you?

Questions open up our energy and allow us to be honest with ourselves. In doing so, we become clear about who we are and what we should be doing in life. In this space, we allow our authentic nature to awaken.

27 thoughts on “Being You

  1. Well said dear lady, we do indeed get tested in so many ways. Until we decide we’ve had enough and break free of those self made cages 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

  2. Karen, I really appreciate those questions. I look forward to reading your book as soon as it’s available. Your first one was so powerful in your honesty and truth about your experience, I can only imagine how great the next one will be. 🙏🏻💖

  3. Very timely post for me, Karen, as I often push myself hard trying to please clients in the spring and end up overdoing it. Those questions are good ones. I need to pay attention to that inner voice urging me to keep the balance! 🙂

    1. I found that once I understood the fears behind why I did what I do, and worked and healed those first; I learned to be more authentic and free. Hope that helps Jennifer 💕💚

      1. I believe much of it has to do with my physical limitations with what we refer to as an “invisible illness.” Because it may appear that I should be able to take on what the next person can, it makes me feel that I may be perceived as inadequate/lazy/less than. I know I have to stop caring what others think but it isn’t easy. Thanks, Karen. xo

  4. Great message Karen, and so true. Congrats for your new book also when it emerges. I connect with your take on life as a fellow counsellor and life skill teacher. Much of our dysfunctional aspects and thoughts stem from what we have been led to believe about ourselves from others and a true picture is often seen better by a stranger, and hence why counselors are warned against dual relationships with clients, For years as a young adult I wondered why so many people would share their hearts with me, often they would say “I have never told anyone this before and I don’t know why I am telling you, I think I trust you.” and they would feel better having shared it, often very personal things. I love you honesty and the help you bring in your blog posts.

    1. Thanks Ashley. I can relate to your experiences with others and I am happy to hear about the difference you are making in the world! It’s a privilege to guide others to find their highest potential 🤗

  5. Karen, i dont know if this is a pure coincidence or not. A few years back i started writing something in the similar lines , in my mother tongue. I was thinking to publish it as a book that time.. but somehow, I didn’t take it up further or lost in between.. actually all those questions which you have added here made me wonder as my scribbles were also in the similar lines.. in fact they were the headings of each of my chapters.. each chapters were my real experiences too..

    1. Wow Akhila that’s amazing. Maybe it’s a sign you that you do publish your original work and finding this reminds you to consider it. I love how life nudges is along on the right path 😊💚

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