If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete Siddhartha Gautama
A Young disciple came to ask his master:
“Master, what is compassion?”
The Master explained:“An old man was begging at the corner of a busy street. First an old lady passed by him and infuriated by the beggar poverty gave him a gold coin.
Then a merchant noticing that a small group of men were talking about him gave 5 gold coins to the beggar, and quickly left while walking with his head held high and having a haughty smile.
Then, later, a boy who went to collect some flowers for his mom passed by the beggar; smiled to him and gave him a flower. ”
The master asked his disciple:
“Which one of them do you think felt the most compassion toward the beggar?”“The merchant did”, replied the boy.
The master, smiling, continued.
“The merchant acted out of pride, the old lady acted out of pity; however the boy felt real compassion. Pity has its roots in fear, and a sense of arrogance and condescension, sometimes even a smug feeling of “I’m glad it’s not me.”
To train in compassion, then, is to know all beings are the same and suffer in similar ways, to honor all those who suffer, and to know you are neither separate from nor superior to anyone.”
When we want others to change, or want them to see our point of view, we can forget to see their pain, their past and their inability to move through their problems. Compassion allows us to forgive and accept people as they are.
When we love people exactly as they are, we will be surprised how quickly they transform into the best version of themselves. When someone feels seen and appreciated for who they are without expectations, one is instantly empowered. This is compassion.