Being Human

by Karen Lang, posted in Healing Grief, How to heal after losing a child, Making a difference

Perhaps they are not stars in the sky but rather openings, where our loved ones shine down and let us know they are happy. –  Inuit Saying

We read and hear so much about being strong in this world and how we should learn that life is a series of lessons and understandings, and that there is no separation.

I was with a Mum today whose daughter died about 6 years ago, she committed suicide. Is this Mother strong? yes of course she is, but has she healed the wounds of her past and the guilt that comes with suicide?  No, perhaps not.  What I remembered today listening to her story, is that she is trying to cope with being human.

Sometimes she is trying to understand the overwhelming emotions that comes with death and how to grasp that into daily life.  Sometimes she is trying to be strong in a her grief or prove to the world she is a survivor of her daughter’s death.  I hope as we see the world in all it’s pain and loss that evolves from wrong decisions, wrong understandings and wrong beliefs, that we remember to be human with each other.

Let us remember that people are suffering and they need our compassion, not our judgment.  They need us to listen and not to preach.  They need a friend and not a problem solver. Today I remembered that we need to be honest with one another.  She was honest with me and it helped both of us move through her thoughts and into ideas for her to heal.  Her life may not be the same as mine, but I can always understand and feel compassion for her story, and that makes all the difference.

Pride can stand
A thousand trials
The strong will never fall

But watching stars without You
My soul cried

Heaving heart is full of pain
Oh, oh, the aching

Des’ree – I’m Kissing You – YouTube

Let us remember to be human and kind to one another.

46 thoughts on “Being Human”

  2. Our planet will be following a better course the day we no longer have to “think” to be kind. As we truly experience the joy and happiness in sharing our lives and experiences; to enrich eachother’s lives physically, emotionally and spiritually, the “NOISE” of today will gradually dissipate leaving us with a sense of calmness and tranquility.

    I reach out with all my heart to offer prayers of comfort for the pain you and many others have gone through losing family members and friends.

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  3. When we are enough, who wish a peaceful world and also work for that, everything in life will look different. To be not judgemental is an important part of this. Great post Karen 🙂

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  4. Tortured souls, in a time of need,
    with desperate cries which no one heeds.
    Too soon, they depart this cruel world,
    like angels with gossamer wings unfurled.

    Open your heart and compassion you’ll find,
    for it takes but a second to listen, to be kind.
    It’s not their intent, to hurt those left behind,
    Only to escape their maddening mind.

    ~ © 2016 – Life Mutated ~

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  5. Beautiful post, thank you for sharing ❤ and I agree, we need to be more compassionate and understanding towards those who are suffering… but like you said, honesty is really necessary!

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  7. Speaking of grief, I finished your book! I would highly recommend it to anyone. Not only does it give understanding for people who have lost a loved one, but it gives practical advice how to go through the grieving process. So it helps people who have lost someone, but also the friends of the bereaved. it gives practical supportive things they can do. I know when I am in grief and people ask what they can do, I don’t have a clue because I don’t know what I need, except to have the loved one who has died back. It’s better when people just say something like, “I’m coming over Tuesday to do your laundry.” Or,” I’m coming over with a casserole and I will also collect everyone else’s dishes and return them for you.” You also give advise on what to say and not to say. It’s really good, Karen. Congratulations!
    Peace and Love,
    Mary

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    2. I am very honored by your words Mary. Thankyou. Maybe you can be my PR girl ha! I wanted it to be practical and honest and easy to read and I am so glad you thought it was. I am very grateful for your response. Many blessings and love.

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      1. I am happy to do what I can at this end of the world. Blessing and love to you Karen,
        Mary

  11. Touching post, Karen.
    It truly should not be difficult to find compassion for another in distress. All one need do, is put yourself in their place. All suffering is relative to the individual or the circumstance. Yet the pain endured is no less. For ever human heart is equally challenged by it.
    -Alan

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  12. I am happy you could offer compassion and understanding, and surely you helped her to continue her healing process. And we all can do the same, in our small ways.

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      3. yes we are well, it was a few years ago but we never get over getting over it. Something we learn to live with and carry on being open to joy, embracing sorrow and being philosophical!

      4. Yes that is exactly what we can all do after great loss. There is joy to find again when we open our heart to heal. Thankyou for sharing your story. Many blessings to you. ❤️❤️❤️

  14. “Let us remember that people are suffering and they need our compassion, not our judgment.”
    I think you hit the nail on this one. If we can just all put our egos aside…

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