Changing our Behaviour

Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behaviour does. – Timber Hawkeye

So often we are told, in order to allow change we need to let go of old beliefs, old thoughts and old ideas, however, we also need to change our behaviour.

I have often struggled with change and sometimes wish life stayed the same, but unfortunately it’s always moving and evolving.  My resistance to it never serves me, so I always need to make a decision, resist and stay in the pain, or change my behaviour and move with it.

Timber Hawkeye has written a book called “Buddhist Boot Camp.”  he writes about training the mind, and believes boot camp is an ideal training method for this generation’s short attention span.

He has travelled over the last few years, staying with different host families.  Through his experience of living with others, he found that all of our pain and suffering is self-inflicted, and that we all have good and bad behaviour within us.

He found the families who complained the most about not having enough money were the also the ones who had two car garages with private swimming pools and he realised that what a lot of  people were missing was the one thing that makes them rich, “love and gratitude.”

He believes we need to practice being grateful, because gratitude has a way of turning what we have into enough.  He has seen that in our persistent pursuit of happiness, we have lost our way, and the only way to reconnect again is through practising stillness, so we can come to a deeper appreciation of our life and life itself.

No matter what changes you are facing presently, move with it, keep focusing on the bigger picture and let go.  Everytime I do,  I feel lighter and suddenly I find my life has flow and synchronicity again, and I realise I am exactly where I should be.

Whether it’s Mother Teresa’s acts of charity, Gandhi’s perseverance, or your aunt Betty’s calm demeanor, it doesn’t matter who inspires you, so long as you’re motivated to be better today than you were yesterday. Regardless of religion or geographical region, race, ethnicity, color, gender, age, ability, flexibility or vulnerability, if you do good, you feel good, and if you do bad, you feel bad. – Timber Hawkeye


15 thoughts on “Changing our Behaviour

  1. I agree and know that what when we complain about life, we bring it into our realm. We live on a low income and each time I go to do the weekly shop I tell myself I will have plenty of money to supply us with food etc and we live a comfortable life. When you go to third world countries. The people there do not complain and will share all they have including their smiles with you. I tell my children they are very lucky.

  2. Yes thankyou Kath, I agree. I decided long ago to believe and act and give, like I always had loads of money even when I didnt. This attitude has always served me and I have never been without. In Bali they make offerings each day to Mother Earth, even when they have nothing, they find something to give, and I think we can learn a great deal from these people as you said and know that abundance will always come from our heart attitude.

  3. Thank you for sharing this Karen, and especially your words:
    “No matter what changes you are facing presently, move with it, keep focusing on the bigger picture and let go. Everytime I do, I feel lighter and suddenly I find my life has flow and synchronicity again, and I realise I am exactly where I should be.”
    …. And breathe 🙂
    Val ❤

  4. Thanks Val, I did laugh at the photo on this post as it reminded me of your post and how you were feeling the other day! We must of been thinking the same thoughts. I agree with you about the breathing! It has changed my behaviour completely when I connect to my breath.

  5. Practicing gratitude is a wonderful way to pick yourself up. I am so grateful for all of the wonderful bloggers who care enough to share the journey.

  6. Thankyou to you too, and yes we are surrounded with wonderful people that inspire and connect us to our truth.

    1. Thankyou Elizabeth, for me change is always about letting go and that gives us freedom and happiness. The hard part is letting go!!

  7. Love the sentiment and the information you shared in this post. I do wish to express a thought however. Sometimes our beliefs limit or are reflected in our behavior. As an example, if you have been told by people over the course of years that you can’t do something then that belief can stop you from trying to do something. Many times people believe the labels placed on them and need to change those beliefs in order to change their behavior. Changing your beliefs is changing your behavior as well.. Just a thought from my limited perspective 🙂 Thank you for sharing this positive and inspirational piece!

    1. Thankyou Jo for your comment and contribution to this debate, In my own life it has always been a practice and discipline of changing my behaviours which has helped Change my old belief system about who I thought I was or could be.

      In changing my natural behaviour which always reflects my core belief system, I had to practice doing the opposite and practice telling myself that this core belief system was not true.

      Overtime this new behaviour and thought pattern changed my beliefs.

      I hope this makes sense?? It is an interesting topic and I’m sure everyone has had a different experience.

      1. Hi Karen it makes perfect sense… I think the two go hand in hand and as you expressed we all are indeed different and have different experiences as well as ways of learning. The beauty of it all and the way we evolve is in the recognition and acceptance of the need to make the change and taking action. I shared a thought with a client earlier… The most important thing is recognizing and acknowledging in doing so you have already changed.

        Thank you for your kindness and your beautifully articulated response the sentient is taken to heart. Thank you for being you, you are awesome!


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