When do we have enough?
When will we know enough?
When will we feel good enough?
When do we know we have loved enough?
The world continuously tell us we do not have enough and so we feel pressured to buy more, see more, be more and this can leave us feeling depleted, rejected and wanting to give up.
I see so many people burnt-out, simply because they believe they can have it all, with “all” being some kind of undefined marker that shall forever be moved upwards just out of our reach, so as to keep us believing, we are never enough.
Below is a beautiful story by Bob Parks to remind us that right now in this precious moment, we are enough and should want nothing more or less.
“Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, “I love you. I wish you enough.” She in turn said, “Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too.”
They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”
“Yes, I have,” I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.
So I knew what this man was experiencing.
“Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?” I asked.
“I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral,” he said.
“When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?”
He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more.”When we said ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them,” he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough hello’s to get you through the final goodbye.
He then began to sob and walked away.
“He who knows enough is enough…will always have enough” – Lao Tzu