“We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist and forever will recreate one another.”
Hogen, a Chinese Zen teacher, lived alone in a small temple in the country.
One day four travelling monks arrived and asked if they could make a fire on his land to warm themselves.
While they were building the fire, Hogen heard them arguing about subjectivity and objectivity.
He joined them and said, ‘There is a big stone in front of you. Do you consider this stone to be inside or outside your mind?’
One of the monks replied, ‘From the Buddhist viewpoint everything is an objectification of our mind, so I would say that the stone is inside my mind.’
‘Well then’, said Hogen, ‘Your head must feel very heavy if this is a reflection of your mind.’
Sometimes when we are in a difficult situation or cannot seem to resolve an issue in a relationship, we can believe that it is the other person that needs to change, and not us.
If this is so, create some space in stillness and ask, ‘Where am I heavy inside?’ or ‘What needs to shift in me, to see this situation or this person more clearly?’