Grief is usually thought of as an emotional response when someone close to us dies and yet, it is not restricted to the loss of something and someone we love. When we really allow life to live through us, grief is an ongoing natural response to moving away from habits and old patterns, into a fuller, more enriching life. – Fiona Moore
Our lives are constantly moving and changing and we are always surprised when a new chapter arrives. Sometimes we can feel overwhelmed by these changes and dealing with these new emotions.
In suppressing these valid feelings of sadness and pain, we allow unresolved emotion to accumulate and this can dampen our capacity to bounce back and move through life easily.
When we recognise that these small changes of loss in our life are important to acknowledge and work through, we will not build up emotion and pain in our bodies.
Holding onto this emotional pain overtime can suppress our immune system and cause sickness, anxiety and even depression.
“Grief does not change you, it reveals you.” – John Green
Embarrassment, loss of identity, or feelings of isolation about our grief can stop us from sharing and releasing. When we face and expose these emotions, we will find compassion and love for ourselves and connect to our soul purpose.
- Honour your grief and be truthful about what you have lost. This really is a loss – be careful not to minimize it.
- Accept the fact that this loss has really happened and it’s apart of everyone’s life.
- Don’t resist. This does not mean to give up. It means to acknowledge and accept everything you feel.
- Share with others . You don’t have to talk about the specifics of the loss, just your feelings about it. This is an important way for you to process your grief and to not get stuck in it.
- Take your power back. By talking about your feelings and receiving guidance on how to deal with your loss, you can take the power back into your life.
There are gifts to be found everywhere, even in the darkest of times, so never deny your feelings from being felt and honour them as important steppings stones to complete healing.