Guilt

by Karen Lang, posted in Uncategorized

“We are our choices.”  – Jean-Paul Sartre

One night my 9-year-old son who had just gone to bed, asked me if I would lay with him as he was scared. I was getting ready for a busy day and was tired and said “No, you are fine, go to sleep.”  When he died the following afternoon after being hit by a car, I remembered what he asked me, and the guilt that followed me from that day on, was overwhelming.

“Guilt is a destructive and ultimately pointless emotion” ― Lynn Crilly

Guilt is an emotion that we are all familiar with, that we have all lived with at some time. What we forget is that we do not need to carry this burden around in our life and that guilt as powerful and destroying as it is, serves no purpose.

Guilt beats us up, it makes us replay our mistakes, it wastes enormous amounts of energy re-enacting how we could have done something differently. It makes us feel bad if we don’t feel bad!

“No longer be the victim of your circumstances, let go, forgive and move on.”

One of the reasons it is so hard to give up and let go of our guilt is because we feel we need to be punished and believe we deserve to feel this way.  Once we realise we do not need to carry this, we can learn to forgive ourselves and lift the heaviness from our life.  Once you let go of it, you will find the confidence to move forward.

Here is one way you can work through letting go of your guilt no matter how hard it seems.

Find a quiet still place and take some deep breaths. Make sure you feel calm and still.
 Call in the person or people you feel you have let down or have carried guilt for.
See them in front of you.   Ask them for forgiveness.
See them forgiving you.
Now say “I forgive myself and let go of any guilt I am holding, I no longer need to punish or burden myself with this guilt.”
See this guilt lifting from your body and mind.
Take some deep breaths and finish.

You may need to do this a couple of times in your meditation to feel completely free. Don’t allow guilt to have any power in your life and don’t let it stop you from experiencing the fullness of life and the precious time we have with each other.
 

Abundance

by Karen Lang, posted in Uncategorized
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I have always thought that in order for my life to be abundant I needed to visualise receiving what it was I wanted.  I would say “I deserve to be abundant” or “I allow money to flow freely to me” or “I am abundant in love or peace or happiness” etc.

And then, about a year ago in meditation I was given a vision of myself giving. Giving freely to everyone I met,  like you would if you had everything. I realised it was in giving to others and myself that I would actually find and feel the abundance I was seeking.  When I learnt that it was stepping out and giving freely of myself rather than trying to take what I deserved, abundance followed me.

“Give, give, give. In the oneness, you give to everyone, and as part of the Oneness, you give to you too” – Sa Silvano

I started to visualise in my meditation myself giving to my family, to friends, to others, I saw myself giving money to others, I saw myself giving time to myself.  I saw myself give abundance, love and time to everyone I love and met…..and overtime there was a shift.

Waiting for abundance means you are living in scarcity and fear.  Fear that you may not get what you want whether it’s a house, a family, money or love.  While you wait and live in fear, you block the abundance.

Instead of waiting for abundance to come or a feeling of giving to arise, start acting like you are abundant, start acting like you already have what you need and see how it begins to shift the barrier you have built.

As I learn more in life through my experiences, I realise that life and it’s lessons are often very simple.  We complicate our situations with busy minds and over thought-out solutions.  Giving freely and accepting easily is all you need to do.

A kind smile, a phone call, a compliment, are all ways we can give freely to others, and if we practice that a little more often instead of waiting for it to come to you, you may be surprised how quickly the universe responds back.

“The only difference between you and me are our choices.”

Living in our Heart

by Karen Lang, posted in Uncategorized

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”  – Kahlil Gibran

When I was guided by a wonderful teacher to live in my heart, I thought it wouldn’t be too hard to practice.  I was wrong.  It is extremely difficult to live in our heart and try to keep out of the constant chatter of our mind.

Choosing to live from the heart requires that we choose a higher aspect of every experience and make a conscious choice for love, surrender, peace, and joy. These energies are all available to us and they exist within each experience but it is a choice we must make willingly and intentionally everyday.

When I live from my heart I am more in tune.  I am more compassionate and somehow I have less fear and worry, but to live in my heart I have to practice stillness.  Everyday when I meditate I intentionally focus on my heart and breathe into it, I allow my heart to fill with love by thinking about the things that I love or have gratitude for.

When I feel that space, that peace, I know I am there and I try to stay there.  Its takes effort and discipline because your mind will want you to come back to its busyness.  Everyday try a little and see the difference.

Practising this love filling my heart helps me to connect to a different way of thinking and I feel calmer when I go there.  When I live too much in my mind I feel stressed, it creates thoughts I probably don’t need, it creates conversations that I haven’t yet had or it allows fear when no fear is valid.

When you live from your heart you allow your heart’s unlimited potential to expand your reality beyond the limitations of the mind and venture into what has been unknown to you until that moment.

Of course we need to be in our minds for lots of reasons but what you will find is that when you connect more and more to your heart space where love and peace are, your choices will be guided by a higher connection and you will create an easier flow in life.

“Every moment of darkness has a potential for light; every aspect of fear contains a potential for love, and every bit of sadness, pain, despair and powerlessness has the potential for higher aspects when you choose them.”

Living in your heart will energise you and allow you more room to let go and allow your mind to be free from the pain and dialogue of the past.  Find ways through breathing, yoga and meditation to connect and practice, practice, practice.

Go within your heart and find the courage to expand its knowing and embrace your highest potential so you can become this in your life and for the world.

The Power of thought

by Karen Lang, posted in Uncategorized

If you believe that you are what you feel, then life truly stems from your thoughts and emotions. Affirmations or the process of repeating positive words can boost your spirit to new levels. Try these affirmations for at least three weeks before you decide if they are working or not.

(1) I can achieve greatness

One of the most influential ones is to tell yourself on a daily basis that you can achieve all the greatness in life. Focus on your vision and dreams and then attach the emotion to that vision. By telling this to yourself and believing that you can achieve greatness, it will eventually turn into reality.

2) Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy

Joy starts from within not from outside of yourself. It also starts as soon as you rise. So make it habit to repeat this to yourself first thing in the morning.

3) I love and accept myself for who I am

Self love is meant to be the purest and the highest form of love. When you love yourself, you automatically start appreciating and respecting yourself. If you have confidence and pride in what you do, you will begin to see yourself in a new light and be encouraged and inspired to do bigger and better things.

4) My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil

A healthy body starts with a healthy mind and soul. If either suffers from negative emotions, the others will be affected. The number one casue of health or disease is you. You can also remove and revoke all permission that you have given consciously, or unconsciously, to all the ills of the world because you share that pain. You are conquering your illness and defeating it steadily each day.

5) I believe I can do everything

You need to say this to yourself every day. Because this is something that is so important for counseling yourself to stay encouraged. By saying this, you are able to do anything and everything that you put your mind to.

6) Everything that is happening now is happening for my ultimate good

There are no victims, no accidents and no coincidences EVER. They simply do not exist in this reality as you and others will only attract what you and they are a part of. So know from the bottom of your heart that everything happens for a reason and in perfect synchronicity. You are at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen. Your fears of tomorrow are simply melting away.

7) I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents

This is something that you should tell yourself when you wake up every morning. Every new day offers a fresh start and also makes an impact on others around you. You can make anything of that day that you like because you are the architect of your own life. If you begin your day with a positive thought and feeling it will transform your day into something incredible. Works every time.

8) I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them

That doesn’t mean you forget what they did, but you are at peace with what they did and the lessons served. Your strength to forgive is what allows you to move forward and your reaction to any experience is independent of what others think of you. You can forgive one thousand people and even if none of them forgive you, there will always be a sense of peace and freedom within you that they will never have until they share that sentiment. Your power to forgive them also instantly changes how they react to you.

9) My ability to conquer my challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite

Plain and simple, you have no limits but those you place on yourself. What kind of life do you want? What is stopping you? What barriers are you imposing on yourself? This affirmation will help you address all of the boundaries.

10) Today, I abandon my old habits and take up new, more positive ones

Realise that any difficult time are only a short phase of life. This too shall pass along with your old habits as you take in the new. You are a fully adapting being with creative energy which surges through you and leads you to new and brilliant ideas and the mindset that allows that energy to flow.

Limitations

by Karen Lang, posted in Uncategorized

“There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must move on.” – Bruce Lee

How often do we find an inspiring moment on our journey, or feel like we have solved not only our own problems but the world’s and then the next morning, it doesn’t seem so exciting and we continue to do what we have always done.

These plateaus are apart of our life and it is often in those moments, that we have a unique opportunity to change our situation and life.

When I feel uncomfortable and stubborn about moving forward in a situation,  I always know that this is definitely a sign to move through it and make changes.

“The sky is not my limit…I am.”   – T F Hodge

I have come to know, that after years of making changes along my journey, that no-one but me can make them and that when I limit myself to these healings or changes, through stubbornness or just wanting to be right, I stop myself from growing and allowing wonderful opportunities to enter my life.

Everytime I let go, everytime I surrender to what was, I release heaviness and allow  lightness and freedom in my daily life.  I feel like my choices are easier, my family are more understanding and that my life is abundant.

It is never easy to move through these plateaus, but we cannot afford to stay there if we want to feel and receive the love and abundance that is waiting for us.

We make the choice everyday and we can either focus on the lack thereof or empower ourselves to create better realities with the pieces that we are given. We are the only ones who are limiting what we need in life and when you step out into the unknown of change, you will never be disappointed.

“The garden of the world has no limits, except in your mind.” – Rumi