There are a hundred paths through the world that are easier than loving. But, who wants easier? Mary Oliver
I love Mary Oliver. Her gift is reminding us to see and feel the beauty around us. To be still where we are, and to be astonished by it all.
Mary is right. There are a hundred paths we can take that is easier than loving ourselves or others and yet, this is exactly what we all want and need.
Self-love is the answer
Learning to fully love ourselves and our life is a full-time job. It requires a conscious effort each day. When we cannot love and accept every part of ourselves, we will continue to attract those who feel the same, and this continues our cycle and search.
It is the absence of self-love, that anxiously focuses our efforts on getting, or waiting for others to give us what we “must” or “should” have. Only then do we believe we will feel loved, accepted and valued.
If we do not love ourselves for all that we are (and are not), is it reasonable to expect the others can do so?
My practice for ‘Mindful Loving’
Remember to be kind to yourself and nurture your needs
Become conscious of your thoughts coming in and let go of your fears
Practice accepting and loving each moment as it is
Understand that you are love. You do not need to search for this in other people or things.
Feel love and appreciation in everything you think, do, and say.
Love the food you eat. Love the work you do. Love every moment you are alive.
Each time we consciously do this, we connect to the vibration of love.
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.
When we truly love ourselves, we also bring out the same qualities in those around us.