“The ego is the false self-born out of fear and defensiveness.” – John O’Donohue
Ego is the unobserved mind that runs your life when you are not present or conscious of your thoughts and actions. – The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle
Ego is born from our deep inner fears or lack of self and as we are surrounded by many others who have similar ego based fears like, control, power, greed, and defense we begin to create drama and problems in our life.
The emotions that stoke our need for power are much stronger than we care to admit. Our ego’s blind us to the truth as we pick and choose facts that support the story we have created in our mind and ignore and minimize those that don’t.
Power struggles, emotional and physical violence all stem from EGO. So we need to ask ourselves “What have I attached my ego to?” Is it the intellect identity? or the victim identity? Is it the Drama? or the Social Status and Wealth identity? or martyr or illness identity? There are so many emotional areas that our ego can attach to and once we understand which one we are, only then can we learn to let go of it and change the illusion of self.
When you reconnect with your true spirit and are no longer run by your ego mind, you will stop creating drama’s and suffering in your life.
“Enlightenment is ego’s ultimate disappointment.” – Chogyam Trungpa
Once you have identified you have an ego, you will start to see how powerful it is in your mind. Even if you live alone your ego can still create drama, feeling sorry for yourself, feeling guilty or anxious or angry at others, that too is drama. Your ego feeds off drama, so when I ask you to let it go, I am asking you to let go of an identity that you have always felt comfortable with, and this creates a great deal of resistance and fear.
The ego is born at a young age and not because we have consciously adopted a certain identity but rather we have connected to one that helps us adapt and receive what we need in the environment we grew up in.
We cling to our carefully planned explanations we have told ourselves and others about why our lives have unfolded as they have, not realising that even when they appear empowering, they are hindering our growth.
When I was young, I found that when I got sick, I got a lot of attention from my parents and this became part of my identity in the family.
Over the years we attach ourselves to a story that we are convinced is our truth. Think about who you are in your own family and what role you were given in that environment. You will begin to see the truth and start to understand the illusion we have all created.
“The ego relies on the familiar. It is reluctant to experience the unknown, which is they very essence of life.” – Deepak Chopra
What if I told you “You will no longer have suffering in your life?” What if I told you “You will no longer have drama or illness in your life?” Would you be happy? Most people would say yes, but if I took it away from you……what you would feel would be a sense of loss and a death to your identity.
When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in your life, then nobody can even have an argument with you. When there is no ego to feed and you are conscious of all your thoughts and words, you will learn to feel peace and acceptance in your life, no matter what is happening around you.
Learn to accept that we all have an ego and begin to understand what identity you have attached to it. Step into the unknown and out of the illusion by letting go of this story you have told yourself.
Allow stillness and mediation and yoga to help you through this healing.
Know that most of us will spend a life time trying to let go of our ego’s but never give up trying to find your true self and purpose in life.
“The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.” – Eckhart Tolle