“The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions” – Ellen Glasgow
Do you feel like you are stuck in a rut? Are you caught up in the same old routine day after day and feel like you are going nowhere? At times do you wish you could be more or have a different job?
All of us at sometime have felt this “rut” and although all the motivational speakers make it sound easy to move out of, I have found it takes a great deal more than a change of heart.
So here is what I have learned.
It is easy to wish things were different, even dreaming them is easy. Working towards these new goals and a change of belief, day in and day out and fighting against what feels comfortable is why people give up so quickly.
The first step is to recognise you are in a rut. You will know this instinctively, but maybe you have not been able to put a name to it. It’s that feeling you get when you think you can’t be bothered doing the same thing or that you don’t want to be treated badly or disrespectfully anymore.
Once you have established that you want to make changes, seek out a recommended Counsellor or a motivational book that can give you some direction in changing your old habits and beliefs.
“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.” – Bill Gates
One thing for sure is that you cannot do the same things that you have always done! You must step out of your comfort zone and try new adventures in life. Perhaps start a course on a topic that you are interested in, join an activity that will connect you to people who will encourage you and extend you.
Look at your diet and exercise programme and see how this is limiting you in becoming a healthier you. If you have always run or walked, perhaps try yoga or Pilates or join a meditation group to still your busy mind.
“It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But, above all, try something.” – Franklin D Roosevelt.
It will not happen overnight, and there are no quick fixes! (I wish) So once you are committed to making those changes, you must realise it is a choice for life and not a casual change in your attitude.
Success often comes to those who want it the most and who focus their energy on getting there.
It takes patience, perseverance and sometimes a little helping hand to get you through and if you are hungry enough to make these changes, you will find there is an unlimited source of help and energy out there for you to connect to.
Most importantly, don’t let those harmful thoughts of not being good enough or fear of failing ever stop you from moving forward.