“A moment of anger can destroy a lifetime of work, whereas a moment of love can break barriers that took a lifetime to build.” – unknown
If we look at the roots of anger, it’s an emotional reaction to what is. It’s a huge resistance to something, a refusal to accept something.
There are plenty of times each day when anger can take hold of us and there are always plenty of people to be annoyed at, but what if I told you that “anger attracts anger.” When you look closely at people who are always upset at how others are treating them, you will find they too are angry and unhappy.
If anger is deep within us, it is usually based on fear and of not accepting and loving ourselves. People believe that anger empowers them to take action, when in fact, anger is a “reaction” from a need to feed our ego.
“Angry people want you to see how powerful they are… loving people want you to see how powerful You are.” – Chief Red Eagle
Next time you are angry, I want you to try this approach. Take a deep breath. Try to keep your heart open and spacious, no matter how tempting it is to shut down and protect. Once you feel a little calmer, ask yourself “what can I be grateful for in this moment?”
If you can think of just one thing to be thankful for, you can shift your mind completely and help release your anger. When we are angry, we are living in our “ego mind”. When we are grateful, we are living in our heart.
“Whenever anger comes up, take out a mirror and look at yourself. When you are angry, you are not very beautiful”. – Thich Nhat Hanh
When we acknowledge the anger and fear within us, we can face the shadows of self and allow them to come to the surface and heal. Learn to nourish yourself using attitudes of love and acceptance.
The choice each day to be grateful instead of angry, will propel us forward into a peaceful and joyful life.
“Forget yesterday – it has already forgotten you. Don’t sweat tomorrow – you haven’t even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift – today.” – Steve Maraboli