“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”
I love this powerful wisdom from John O’Donohue about change. His words remind us we cannot live in possibility and mystery, if we keep holding onto our old stories of suffering and pain. Not easy to do, I know. However, unless we have the courage to leave one way of being and enter another, without looking back; we will never feel the deep freedom that transformation gives us.
“It remains a dream of every life to realize itself, to reach out and lift oneself up to greater heights. A life that continues to remain on the safe side of its own habits and repetitions, that never engages in the risk of ones own possibility, remains an unlived life.
Looking back along our life’s journey, we come to see how each of the central phases of our life began at a decisive threshold where we left one of way of being, and entered another.
A threshold is not simply an accidental line that happens to separate one region from another. It is an intense frontier that divides a world of feeling from another. Often the threshold becomes clearly visible only once we have crossed it.
Crossing can often mean the total loss of all we enjoyed, while on the other side; it becomes a dividing line between the past and the future. More often than not, the reason we cannot return to where we were is that we have changed, we are no longer the one who crossed over.
The word threshold is related to the word thresh, which is the separation of the grain from the husk or straw when oats are flailed. It also includes the notions of entrance, crossing, border and beginning. To cross a threshold is to leave behind the husk and arrive at the grain.”
John O’Donohue – To Bless the Space Between us.